Disclaimer: If you are a victim of narcissistic abuse, I advise you to seek professional counseling and at the end of this article I will include some resources that may help. If you insist on going there I do have some strategies that will assist you in getting a revenge on a narcissist. Beware if you cause a “narcissistic injury”, the narcissist will want to make you pay. I say just escape from the disordered and get in a healthy situation. Know that, the best revenge on the narcissist is to go on with your life and heal from their abuse, but if you insist on getting revenge? Here are some ways you can get revenge one a narcissist…
Smile
A narcissist is a miserable person. At all times of the day you will catch them with a frown or deadpan look on their face. It’s inevitable, because they are super unhappy people. Sure, you may catch them smirking when they are engaged in some gossip or smear campaign, but other than that, they look unhappy most times. And you better believe, they would like nothing more than you to be miserable too.
A narcissist will take pleasure in seeing you unhappy. Your pain, your sorrow, is their pleasure and their delight. So whenever you are around your narcissist? Smile, in the face of their rude remarks, frowned up displeasure, and blatant disrespect. Nothing pisses a narcissist off more than knowing they can’t spoil your day. And trust me; dealing with a narcissist will spoil your day. So get revenge and flash those pearly whites at every given moment when the narcissist is around.
Ignore
A narcissist craves attention. It is one of their favorite drugs. And unfortunately their victims are the ones they get their drug from. Most of your day will be consumed with giving them attention in all forms. They will demand it. I mean without your attention a narcissist would in their mind, cease to exist. So another way to get revenge on that pesky narcissist is to simply ignore them!
Yes, ignore their calls. Go ghost. Evade any communication at all. Want to take it up a notch? Go to an event and act like you don’t see them. Your narcissist will be fit to be tied. Remember, your attention is what they so desperately need, so refuse to give them what they need the most.
Interrupt
A lot of what a narcissist does when it comes to communication can be considered verbal abuse. Whenever they want to speak, interrupt. Basically, be the rude people they are to other people. It will go against everything that you have been taught. You may have been taught that it is rude to interrupt others, so you have spent your life not interrupting others. But when you are dealing with a self serving narcissist, the rules sometimes shouldn’t apply, because a narcissist has no problem dominating conversations.
Interrupting them may be the only way to get a word in otherwise. And once you start interrupting? Don’t stop. Continuously interrupt them and otherwise dominate the conversation. Do not give them an opportunity to “gas light” or play mind games with you. Do not give them the opportunity to triangulate you or gossip about others to you. It’s one of the more sneakier ways to get revenge, but can be quite effective if you do it right.
Play dumb
A narcissist will always act like they are the smartest person in the room, and in turn treat you like you are stupid. Deep down they know you are intelligent, but they take pleasure in talking down to you or questioning you in a way that proves their superiority over you. But what if you are the dumb person they think you are? Or what if you simply acted like it?
If a narcissist insists that you interact with them? Act like you are completely clueless. For example, if they are retelling a story keep a completely blank facial expression. Narcissists often use other’s reactions and corroborations to their stories to fuel their egos and need for constant attention. Just do a technique called, “go dumb”. Act like you are confused or don’t remember. This will be so frustrating to the narcissist when you do not comply. It’s the perfect way to get revenge on the narcissistic know it all.
Don’t react
It should be stated, narcissists are notorious for using other people’s reaction as fuel. Your reactions are just another form of attention. They will often behave in shocking over the top ways just to see how you will respond to them. They love to see signs of disapproval on your face. They live for your unhappiness, so they love nothing better than to see that their behavior causes you distress.
One of the ways you can get the ultimate revenge on a narcissist is to not react to their behavior. This is sometimes very difficult to do, especially with the more overt kind, but it is well worth the discomfort it causes the narcissist. Your lack of reaction will cause them to face the revenge you are seeking.
Expose them
This is the method of revenge that will get the most reaction out of a narcissist, but be forewarned the reaction may be more than you can handle. It is dangerous to seek revenge against a narcissist and this one may be the most dangerous option of them all.
Narcissist love to sully your reputation but you can get revenge on them by sullying their reputations first. You can do this by warning others about them. It can help if you can get other people that the narcissist has harmed to vouch for your explanation of the narcissist. I would not advise letting the narcissist that you plan to expose them. If for any reason a narcissist gets the idea that you are against them, a narcissist will go on the offense and they are known for being good purveyors of revenge.
WARNING!!! BEWARE OF THE UNHINGED NARCISSIST:
If you cause a “narcissistic injury”, a narcissist will want to see you suffer. Do not attempt revenge on a narcissist that has threatened you with bodily harm or harmed you physically. Even a non violent narcissist will resist the threat to their fragile ego. If you attempt to get revenge on a narcissist you may be a target of their rage. They will try to destroy you and they will not stop until they see you in emotional and, or physical pain. Is it worth it to have a lifelong enemy or someone that is always plotting your demise?
I know it hard to believe but often narcissist abuse is not personal. They will prey on anyone who is around. They are disordered people. So is it really worth going there with them?
The best revenge you can seek against a disordered person? When you know that someone is a narcissist? Cut them out of your life. Disengage. Seek help to understand why you attract disordered people in your life. You deserve to be in happy, healthy relationships.
BREAK THE TIES THAT BIND
Often, it feels like the abuse that the narcissist heaped on to us has bound them to us. This is because often we are “trauma bonded” to them. We need to learn healthy ways to break that bond. Narcissistic abuse can lead to an immense amount of psychological trauma for its victims. It’s important to heal the deep psychological damage that the victim of narcissistic abuse has suffered. It is normal to want to get revenge on anyone who has caused such a pain. It is my opinion it would be better to rebuild your self esteem and focus on your mental health and your overall better well being.
Need help with healing from narcissistic abuse? For more information on narcissistic abuse recovery contact your local mental health agencies. Maybe this link will help:
Help for Mental Illnesses – National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) (nih.gov)
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